What is 'tolyamory'?
A good new word. I obviously won't go into details but I have been involved in a version of this in the past -- with no hard feelings involved
You might have heard of polyamory, the practice of more than one romantic partner, but we bet not many of you have heard of tolyamory.
This new term, recently coined in the US, might not be as uncommon as you think.
Tolyamory is not discussed or agreed upon by both parties, whereas polyamory is. If you haven’t already guessed what it could be, here’s what you need to know.
What is tolyamory?
The term tolyamory was created by podcaster and sex and relationship columnist Dan Savage. It's a portmanteau that combines the terms "tolerate" and "polyamory" and describes a relationship dynamic where one or both parties tolerate or put up with the other's extramarital or sexual encounters.
In contrast to other consensual non-monogamy practices like polyamory, this one isn't something the couple have formally discussed and agreed upon.
The word was introduced in a January episode on Savage’s podcast, where he described it as “someone willing to turn a blind eye to a lap dance or a brief affair after years of marriage”.
He added: “They’re able to focus on all the ways their spouse demonstrates their commitment and shows their love. And all of those other ways compensate or make the cheating that might be happening tolerable. These people aren’t fools or dupes.
“They’re not to be pitied - they know what they signed up for and long ago made peace with what they got. They’re willing to put up with it - a certain amount of it - reconciled to it, willing to tolerate it. They are, in a word, tolyamorous.”
Although we don’t know how prevalent it is at the moment, it is becoming quite common, according to relationship researchers.
https://www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/what-tolyamory-infidelity-relationships-cheating-b1163403.html
**************************************************Shocking moment black woman slaps random white child in the face before facing instant karma
More of the racial antagonism that Leftists foster
This is the shocking moment a woman randomly attacks a child before a bystander stepped in to deliver instant retribution.
Surveillance footage shows a mother casually walking with her daughter on a sidewalk in Brazil as the assailant approaches them from the opposite direction.
The woman suddenly extends her arm and smacks the girl in the face as they pass each other in broad daylight.
The mother prepares to retaliate when her frightened daughter pulls her back just as the wild woman took another swing at them but this time missing.
However, a man who witnessed the attack, did not hold back and bolted toward the woman, kicking her in the mid-section.
The woman immediately falls to the ground and the man tries to kick her three more times, but only connects once.
She then admonishes the man and appears ready to fight him, too, when a female bystander intervenes.
Other onlookers can be seen checking on the well-being of the mother and her daughter.
Social media users sided with the man's decision for coming to the aid of the defenseless mother and child.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13527337/moment-woman-slaps-stranger-daughter-karma.html
***********************************************************James Carville Concedes There's One Voter Bloc Dems Are Absolutely Going to Lose
Democratic Party strategist James Carville ruffled many a feminist feather when he said that the messaging for liberals had become too female-oriented. It was preachy, whiny women telling everyone else how to live their lives. He was criticized by hordes of liberal commentators, many of whom will never come close to the political achievements Carville has amassed. Whether you love or hate him, Carville knows how to win elections. We should be happy Democrats aren’t listening to him—he could turn things around for his party with his ‘don’t be a snob’ attitude.
On Donny Deutsch’s podcast, Carville expounded on how most people want to live their lives. Working Americans like to drink and watch football games. Some might even participate in recreational drug use. Who cares—we have these shrill women telling us not to eat meat, not to watch sports, and to be carbon copies of the insufferable masses who shop at Whole Foods. One voter bloc Carville seems resigned to losing is Hispanic males.
“We’re going to f**king lose them,” he exclaimed.
And it’s not just Hispanic men; it’s a male problem across the board.
But the overall problem Carville highlights for liberals is that people are sick of the “cosmopolitan condescension” from the Left, which Carville notes gives Donald Trump a massive appeal to voters. The Left couldn’t care less, being more preoccupied with whether they’re on the right side of this arc of history. That’s a privileged position; most of us have to go to work.
No one likes a snob. Democrats are the embodiment of that arrogance because they’re a regional, coastal, and urban-based party. They’re the people who kill the mood with debates about issues that don’t impact most of the country, like pronouns. They’re the ones who decide who can speak in a discussion based on education level. How often have you heard people say, ‘I have a degree,’ as if that’s a valid point in a debate? Most degrees are worthless.
These people also have a very dark affinity for radical Islamic terrorism and antisemitism. So, if you see a Democrat, they probably hate Jewish people. How that hasn’t become a topic—a neo-Jewish diaspora from the Democratic Party—remains a mystery.
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Inside the push to scrap NSW’s ‘no body, no parole’ laws
This is a stupid and evil law that could well keep innocent people in prison. Finding the body is important in securng a conviction but after that is of sentimental importance only. A discretionary 10% cut in the parole period after a conviction would be a much better way of encouraging disclosure
On September 20, 2022, just weeks after Chris Dawson was convicted of murdering his wife Lynette following a trial that gripped the country, then-NSW premier Dominic Perrottet announced a tightening of the state’s parole laws.
Convicted killers who “wilfully and deliberately” refused to reveal the whereabouts of their victims’ remains would be ineligible for release on parole, Perrottet said. The changes, referred to as “Lyn’s law”, were rushed through parliament and passed on October 13.
Dawson’s appeal against his conviction for the 1982 killing of Lynette Joy Simms was dismissed last week by NSW’s top criminal appeal court. He was sentenced in December 2022 to a maximum of 24 years in prison with a non-parole period of 18 years.
A year was added to his non-parole period last year, after he was convicted of unlawful sexual activity with a then-pupil in 1980.
Dawson is first eligible for release in August 2041, aged 93, but Lyn’s law will keep him behind bars until he is 98, unless he co-operates with authorities about the location of her remains.
Lynette’s family and the couple’s elder daughter have pleaded with Dawson to allow them to “bring her home”, and the “no body, no parole” laws are backed by advocates for victims of crime.
But the changes may have no practical application to Dawson at all.
NSW Supreme Court Ian Harrison acknowledged in his sentencing decision that Dawson, now 75, would “not live to reach the end of his non-parole period” or would be “seriously disabled well before then even if he does”.
It is the potential application of the laws to other prisoners that has raised alarm bells.
Folbigg, Chamberlain-Creighton unite
This month, the women at the centre of two of Australia’s biggest miscarriages of justice, Lindy Chamberlain-Creighton and Kathleen Folbigg, joined a coalition of high-profile lawyers fighting for the “no body, no parole” laws to be overturned.
In an open letter, organised by the Bridge of Hope Innocence Initiative (BOHII) at RMIT University and delivered to Attorney-General Michael Daley, more than 100 signatories including Folbigg and Chamberlain-Creighton called for the laws to be scrapped due to their “disastrous” consequences for wrongfully convicted prisoners.
Lawyer Rhanee Rego, who acted for Folbigg in the inquiry that led last year to her acquittal over the deaths of her four young children after 20 years in prison, said the laws “should be repealed”.
“Wrongfully convicted people cannot help locate a body if they have not committed the crime,” Rego said.
“Importantly, the same legislation enacted in 2017 in Queensland is not having the desired effect. The legislation does not appear to increase the instances of offenders assisting to locate bodies.”
In the first case to test the new laws, Keli Lane, who was convicted in 2010 of the murder of her infant daughter, Tegan, was denied parole last month after serving her minimum sentence of 13 years and 5 months.
Tegan’s body has never been found and Lane maintains she gave the baby to her daughter’s father, who has never come forward. BOHII has called for an urgent review of her case. The 49-year-old is set to remain behind bars until her 18-year sentence expires in December 2028.
Judge in Lane case speaks out
Anthony Whealy, KC, a former judge of the NSW Supreme Court and Court of Appeal, presided over Lane’s jury trial and is a signatory to the open letter.
“The general proposition is this: hard cases make bad law, and [these laws] … stemmed essentially from the Chris Dawson trial,” Whealy said.
“One can understand that that was a traumatic trial, and it was certainly so for [Lynette Simms’ family], very much so, and so the government rushes to make a law without thinking of the consequences.”
Whealy noted that “it was always possible under the existing law for the parole body to take into account the fact that somebody was refusing to cooperate indicating where a victim’s body might be found”.
‘The impact of that [parole] door slamming shut, the emotional, psychological damage that would do to someone, [is profound].’
“The fact that they can’t tell you where the body is should be merely a discretionary factor and not a mandatory exclusion from parole,” he said. “We should go back to what the law was originally.”
Judges imposing murder sentences “will have very carefully given a sentence which embodies the principal period during which someone must be in jail and the period where it’s reasonable for them to be released on parole”, Whealy said.
“That would have taken into account the fact that they were refusing to admit that they were guilty … and had [not] demonstrated any remorse.”
During his second reading speech, the then-corrections minister Geoff Lee said the “no body, no parole” bill “recognises the pain and ongoing suffering experienced by victims’ families and friends who have not only lost a loved one but are unable to locate their remains and put them to rest”.
But Whealy said that in Lane’s case “the person whose grief and distress would need to be recognised was Keli Lane herself”, in the absence of Tegan’s biological father, and it was “absolutely ludicrous to say that this law should be applied to her”.
Professor Michele Ruyters, director of the Bridge of Hope Innocence Initiative, said: “If the purpose of the legislation is to provide closure to victims’ families, and if that’s not possible because the families are not lobbying for this outcome, or there is no family, as in Keli’s case, then the only purpose of these laws is to punish.”
“That’s not the job of the [State] Parole Board,” Ruyters said.
In Lane’s case, she had been taking steps preparatory to release and then “all of a sudden that door is shut and then she’s back into the mainstream prison”, Ruyters said.
“From a human rights aspect, the impact of that door slamming shut, the emotional, psychological damage that would do to someone, [is profound].”
The government response
A NSW government spokesperson did not respond directly to the open letter but said the laws require an offender to “cooperate to locate the remains of the victim, not that the victim’s remains are actually found.”
“If the offender cooperates satisfactorily, they could be granted parole. If the offender does not cooperate, they will not be granted parole.”
Parole “rewards good behaviour”, the spokesperson said, and the laws were designed to “incentivise offenders to disclose the location of a victim’s remains, to provide closure to the victim’s family.”
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