British 'tradwife' who submits to her husband like it's the 1950s reveals she's deleted social media and moved to Australia for a more private life
This idea of the woman "submitting" to her husband seems dubious to me. When I had a tradwife we just came to unforced agreements about things and during my childhood it was definitely my father who submitted to my non-working mother.
I think you can have a traditional marriage as long is there is broad agreement in favour of traditional roles, but after that the detailed arrangements are whatever suits the individual personalities involved. "Submitting" sounds a very unhappy thing to me and and a husband who kept making his wife unhappy would either be a fool or out of love with her
A British woman who became famous as one of the UK's first 'trad wives' has revealed she's moved to Australia after the 1950s-inspired movement 'became a monster'.
The tradwife movement, which blew up in the UK in 2020, says that wives should not work, and rather spend their days cooking, cleaning, wearing modest and feminine dress, and practice traditional etiquette, being submissive to their husbands and 'always put them first'.
Alena Kate Pettitt, 38, originally from Cheltenham, Gloucestershire, who is a self-proclaimed tradwife, tried to showcase the idea in Britain.
But she has since revealed how she's stepped away from the limelight, deleting her Instagram account and moving to Australia to live a more private life, because it's become 'politicised' and due to receiving 'unwanted attention from men'.
She 'stepped away' from her social media page last year, despite it boasting nearly 40,000 followers, and said on her blog that she is 'embarrassed' that she used to take part in the social media fad.
Alena, who started up a 'femininity finishing school' called The Darling Academy, also felt that the tradwife movement had lost its way, becoming more of a superficial trend which had lost control of it's core values.
Speaking to the New Yorker she said: 'It's become an aesthetic, and then it's become politicized. And then it's become its own monster.'
She worried new generations of tradwives are getting 'younger and younger, and more polished than realistic.'
Another reason she ditched her account was because of the 'vile messages, the hatred, the passive-aggressive comments and unwanted attention from men.'
This all fed into the reason why Alena decided to delete her Instagram, however she revealed on her blog that she still upholds her traditional values, only more privately this time around.
Writing on The Darling Academy, she said: 'I tried. I thought that speaking to the media and using a platform with so many users would be a wonderful way to promote the brilliant work of the housewife.
'But as with all kinds of positive activism, good message, or wholesome idea, it will in time become hijacked by the opposite of what you stand for and believe in.'
It appears Alena also decided to take a hiatus from her blog for nearly a year to create 'certain boundaries' which she said were put in place by her husband, Carl, and members of her family.
However the former Marketing Manager recently returned to the platform saying she 'sought permission' from her husband to announce that they are now living in Australia.
Alena explained that the big move across the pond was always on the cards for them, however it came a little bit sooner then they had anticipated after their home address in England was shared online which made her feel 'unsafe.'
Writing on her blog she said their 'hearts were no longer in England', even though they almost bought a 'doer upper' house back in Gloucestershire.
She revealed the house would of been 'too much work' and with her husband working full time the renovations would of been 'painfully slow'.
The mother-of-one added that their privacy and safety was also 'ultimately violated' on a gossip forum when their previous address was shared and the new home was just down the road, saying it didn't have 'enough distance' for her to feel safe.
Describing 2023 as an Annus Horribilis, Latin phrase that means a horrible year, she revealed that she also lost friends after stepping back from social media.
She said it was 'disappointing to feel used', but a 'relief to be free of taking pictures ''for the gram''. '
Sticking to her true traditional values, Alena revealed she is going to blog and write like it was in the 'early days' before social media.
She claimed her content will still be centred around homemaking but with 'healthy boundaries' this time around.
Alena was one of the earliest and best known in the movement of women who spend their days taking care of their homes and families and documenting their activities on social media.
She wrote two books, where she set out her Christian beliefs and principles of womanhood, which her husband helped her to self-publish.
In 2016, she published what turned out to be something between a guidebook to traditional womanhood and a memoir of self-transformation through faith. Pettitt called the book Ladies Like Us. Her next book, English Etiquette, followed in 2019.
Speaking to the BBC in 2020, she explained of her blog: 'I talk about etiquette, feminine lifestyle, homemaking, and being a traditional housewife.
'I wouldn't expect my husband to come home after a long day at work and cook for me. My job is essentially being a housewife.'
Alena gets a monthly allowance for the food shop, along with a buffer for her to 'spend something on myself' so she's not always 'asking him for money'.
Admitting that she didn't enjoy growing up in the nineties era where the emphasis was on breaking glass ceilings, Alena says she was 'born to be a wife and mother'.
Alena enjoyed shows from the 1950s and 1960s, and remembered how her single mother worked full-time, with the house becoming a 'huge burden', which became the turning point for her when she realised she 'didn't want the same life'.
Revealing that her husband also believed in the same traditional values and offered to 'look after her', she admitted meeting him was the moment she felt complete. 'It's almost like the fairytale came true', she said.
Alena says she was a 'career girl' in her twenties and followed messages from hit show Sex and The City, which she interpreted as telling women working was 'liberating and they should follow their sexual desires'.
Not identifying with this persona, she then turned to shows like the Real Housewives, but found the wives were 'too rich to do their own cleaning and everyone was cheating on each other'.
She then went online and discovered an underground movement of other women who felt the same, explaining they craved the sense of 'belonging, home quaintness and tradition'.
Alena, who strongly believes your husband should 'always come first and should know this', said some feminists believe her movement is throwing their work for equality back in their faces.
Revealing her take on feminism, she explained: 'My view on feminism is that it's about choices. To say you can go into the working world and compete with men and you're not allowed to stay at home - to me is taking a choice away'.
Distancing herself from the movement's right-wing links, she argued: 'Being a tradwife is investing in your family and being selfless. So I would say the opposite of that is someone who is selfish and just takes'.
Along with blogs and vlogs dedicated to the movement, which is also taking Brazil, Germany and Japan, by storm, an array of books from the fifties and sixties 'teaching' women how to be the perfect housewives become popular again.
One of the movement's pin-up girls is Helen Andelin, the American author of the 1963 'Fascinating Womanhood' book, which teaches women that subordination is the 'key to a happy marriage' and has regained popularity.
And, a century after the first wave of feminism ended, and sixty years after the women's liberation movement, Helen Andelin's daughter Dixie Andelin Forsyth has launched a worldwide 'femininity class' with 100,000 followers.
Speaking to Stylist, she claimed: 'The movement's rising because women have had enough of feminism in the UK and elsewhere. We say to feminists: thanks for the trousers, but we see life a different way'.
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Now Even Viewpoint Diversity Is ‘White Supremacy’
Do you want a perspective other than the stifling woke orthodoxy being imposed on society through classrooms, TV shows, and corporate boardrooms? Tired of seeing “LGBTQ” this and “BIPOC” or “AAPI” that? Do you want a discussion of ideas without constant identity politics?
You just might be a white supremacist.
That’s essentially the message of the Southern Poverty Law Center’s latest attack on the mainstream conservative Christian law firm Alliance Defending Freedom. You see, ADF had the gall to launch a “Viewpoint Diversity Score” to broaden the discussion in corporate boardrooms beyond the Left’s sacred cows.
The SPLC can’t stand for that, so it’s reaching for the tired old “white supremacy” card once again.
The SPLC gained its reputation by suing Ku Klux Klan groups into bankruptcy, but it weaponized that reputation to smear mainstream conservative and Christian nonprofits. It publishes a map plotting parental rights groups; religious freedom organizations, including ADF; and pro-immigration enforcement groups alongside Klan chapters, suggesting that all sorts of conservative causes are driven by “hate.”
The SPLC’s annual report describes all groups on the map as part of the “organizational infrastructure … upholding white supremacy in the United States.”
What Is White Supremacy?
“White supremacy” once meant the idea that white people are superior to others and that society should be restructured to give them maximum power. Since the 1950s, this racism has rightly been pushed to the fringes of American public discourse, racial minorities have gained equal rights, and Americans have rejected race essentialism.
The Left, however, has embraced critical race theory, a Marxist worldview that attributes any racial disparity to racism and uses claims of systemic racism as a pretext to impose more government control.
Simultaneously, increasingly desperate leftist groups like the SPLC have realized that branding conservatives “racist” has lost its bite because Americans know it’s false—so, now they use an even more inflammatory term, justified by the false premises of CRT.
Under CRT, the SPLC can brand any conservative a supporter of “white supremacy” because it claims that American society is systemically racist. As such, anything short of a radical “anti-racist” restructuring of society amounts to donning a Klan hood.
The Human Rights Campaign index pushes LGBTQ activism in corporate boardrooms, and its influence helps explain why Target promoted “tuck” swimsuits making males appear female and why a transgender influencer gave Bud Light the kiss of death. The Corporate Equality Index is a key part of the environmental, social, and governance movement pushing companies to adopt leftist positions on abortion, climate, and gender.
The Viewpoint Diversity Score from the Alliance Defending Freedom
The ADF version pressures companies to provide breathing space for dissent from this woke orthodoxy. The Viewpoint Diversity Score Business Index urges companies to “meaningfully respect customers, employees, shareholders, and other external stakeholders who hold diverse religious and ideological beliefs [and] foster viewpoint diversity in their workplaces.”
The ADF index isn’t trying to bully corporations to adopt its positions on political issues. Instead, it’s urging them to return to neutral, to recognize that not all Americans want to wear rainbow-flag pins and shout their abortions. Business should be about treating customers, employees, and shareholders well, regardless of what they believe.
It’s All About Power
The SPLC takes umbrage with this because it prefers the woke takeover of corporations. Scratch the surface of any woke complaint about “racism” and you’ll find an obsession with power underneath. The Viewpoint Diversity Score is calling out the Left’s tactics to dominate corporate boardrooms, and the SPLC can’t stomach it.
So the SPLC’s R.G. Cravens claims that “ADF’s public relations and legal crusades are intertwined with Christian supremacist and white supremacist ideologies.” According to Cravens, ADF’s efforts responding to diversity, equity, and inclusion “appear to resonate with white supremacist rhetoric that characterizes DEI policies as a form of ‘anti-white racism’ and a threat to white people brought about by ‘woke’ ideology.”
Yet anyone remotely familiar with criticism of DEI knows that Asian Americans, not whites, often find themselves most disfavored by “equity” practices that prioritize meeting racial quotas. Asian Americans cheered the Supreme Court’s overturning of racial preferences in college admissions not because they are secretly white supremacist, but because they value merit over “racial equity.”
Nowhere did Cravens provide a quote directly from ADF to demonstrate that the Viewpoint Diversity Score has anything to do with helping white people—because it doesn’t.
The SPLC just doesn’t have anything else to say.
https://www.dailysignal.com/2024/08/12/now-viewpoint-diversity-white-supremacy-splc-says/
****************************************************Elon Musk Brands Humza Yousaf a “Super Racist Scumbag”
Yousaf is a former Chief Minister of Scotland of Pakistani heritage
Elon Musk has slammed Humza Yousaf as a “super racist scumbag” and dared him to sue, amid reports that the former First Minister is mulling legal action over their escalating social media feud on X. The Telegraph has more.
On Sunday, Mr. Musk effectively branded Mr. Yousaf a “dangerous race baiter” in response to the former SNP leader sharing an article in the Sunday Mail claiming that he was “considering all options”, including going to court.
The exchange came two days after Mr. Musk described Mr. Yousaf as a “super, super racist” and claimed that he “loathes white people”.
The comments were a response to an attack the ex-SNP leader had launched on Mr. Musk at the Edinburgh Fringe.
He described Mr. Musk, one of the wealthiest people in the world, as “one of the most dangerous men on the planet” and accused him of attempting to stoke civil wars in Europe.
The allegations of racism against Mr. Yousaf by Mr. Musk date back to last year, when he responded to a three-year-old speech Mr. Yousaf gave at Holyrood at the height of the Black Lives Matter movement.
The then-SNP justice secretary had pointed out that a succession of figures in Scottish public life were white.
Mr. Musk has repeated the racism allegation over recent days in response to Mr. Yousaf’s widely reported comments in the Scottish capital. …
On Sunday, Mr. Yousaf shared the report on X that had raised the prospect of him taking legal action. He accompanied the link to the news story by calling Mr. Musk a “dangerous race baiter” adding that “his billions won’t stop me calling out his support for the far-Right.”
Mr. Musk responded by agreeing with a comment in which another social media user told Mr. Yousaf it was he who was a “dangerous race baiter who must be held to account for your actions”.
Mr. Musk later added: “He’s obviously super racist against white people. I dare that scumbag to sue me. Go ahead, make my day…”
https://dailysceptic.org/2024/08/12/elon-musk-brands-humza-yousaf-a-super-racist-scumbag/
**********************************************Australia: Warning on attempts to reduce the level of proof required for a rape conviction
Australia’s peak legal body is challenging a movement to reshape the administration of rape trials in the wake of #MeToo, declaring that the presumption of innocence and the rule of law must remain sacrosanct, as the country’s law reform commission looks to overhaul legal frameworks governing sexual violence.
In extraordinary comments amid a Labor-led push to improve outcomes for rape victims, the Law Council of Australia says that, while some fundamental principles underpinning the criminal justice system may have “some impact” on complainants, any reforms must protect critical rights of defendants.
The Law Council, in its submission to the Australian Law Reform Commission inquiry into justice responses to sexual violence, proposed reforms including better funding community legal services and implementing “early intervention strategies and services” including consent education.
“All law reform proposals must be carefully considered and critically evaluated to ensure they do not undermine key safeguards of the criminal justice system,” the submission reads.
“The presumption of innocence, the right to silence, the right to a trial by jury, the burden of proof resting on the prosecution, and the criminal standard of proof (beyond reasonable doubt) are all essential to the integrity of the criminal justice system.”
Other submissions tendered to the inquiry, predominantly written by sexual assault advocacies, have called for a “civil” approach to rape cases – with a different standard of proof – to be introduced, and a crackdown on “inappropriate” defence questioning.
There have also been suggestions that “bad character” evidence relating to a defendant, such as the fact that they are a heavy drinker or use illicit drugs, could be admitted, and an accused person’s right to silence be “reviewed”.
Some members of a “lived-experience” sexual assault advisory group set up by Attorney-General Mark Dreyfus to speak directly with the commissioners of the inquiry have also called for prerecorded evidence for complainants to be allowed, and for the introduction of specialist sexual assault courts.
The Law Council – representing all state and territory bar associations and law societies, and advocating for more than 100,000 lawyers across the country – said that, while protecting the presumption of innocence might “have some impact upon complainants”, it is “a cornerstone of our criminal justice system” that should not be diminished.
“The criminal justice system was developed at a time when the impacts of trauma upon complainants and victim-survivors were not well understood,” the submission reads. “Improved understandings of the impacts of trauma require that trauma-informed practices and principles are embedded within the court system, legal profession and police practices.
“The criminal justice system has a responsibility to protect the fundamental rights of an accused person. There is also a responsibility – however complex this may be – for justice systems in each Australian jurisdiction to better support complainants and victim-survivors whilst upholding fundamental criminal justice principles to ensure a fair trial.”
Two long-term judges presiding over the review – Australian Law Reform Commission president Mordecai Bromberg and part-time commissioner Marcia Neave – said in June the inquiry would investigate the “non-engagement” of rape victims with criminal solutions, and examine whether alternative civil remedies could bring them justice.
The Law Council said it supported “strengthened access to alternative pathways to the criminal justice system including restorative justice and civil compensation”.
In a statement accompanying the submission, it affirmed the “importance of adopting an approach that centres on the experience of complainants and victim-survivors”.
It also said it held “grave concerns” about “the persistent inadequate funding” of legal aid services, and supported “the operation of support services and other initiatives that assist victims navigate and understand the criminal justice system and mitigate re-traumatisation”.
“We consider that victim-survivors and complainants are more likely to be re-traumatised and to experience adverse impacts resulting from unmet legal needs in the context of a chronically underfunded justice system,” the submission reads.
One of the Law Council’s core focuses is on “early-intervention strategies and services” including consent education, family support services, behavioural-change programs for offenders, and “fully resourced representation for complainants and victim-survivors at certain stages of the criminal process”.
In regards to “inappropriate” defence questioning, the Law Council “generally considers existing safeguards, for example, rules with respect to disallowable questions, to be adequate”.
“However there is scope to continually improve the application of such rules,” the submission reads.
“The Law Council notes that a primary function of the trial judge is to control questioning that could jeopardise a fair trial and that their judicial authority, independent of objections raised by counsel, requires them to ensure that counsel observe accepted standards in the manner in which evidence is elicited.”
The Law Council said it did not support prerecorded evidence for adult sexual-assault complainants becoming the norm, saying it could cause delays and be ineffective. However, it acknowledged that prerecording evidence could “reduce the re-traumatisation of vulnerable persons” by ensuring they do not have to give evidence multiple times.
The Law Council does not support the introduction of specialist sexual assault courts, saying it could “exacerbate existing disparities” for people who live outside metropolitan areas, and could “create significant risks of ‘burnout’ and trauma for staff consistently working in such courts”.
“Instead, we support greater focus on raising standards of trauma-informed and culturally safe practices across all criminal courts,” the submission reads.
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