Wednesday, November 16, 2022


I date three men at once to combat ghosting — here’s why

Interesting that a young woman has arrived at a situation that I share. I am 50 years older than her but I too have not been able to find one lady who can give me all I need. I have 3 fine women calling on me regularly. It has always been a big ask for one person to fulfil all of another person's needs so this is a reflection of that. Reproductive needs will however break up the woman's arrangements in time. Being in my 80th year however, I have no such needs

Over the summer, Serena Kerrigan was blindsided when a man dumped her by text in the early stages of dating. Hurt and upset, the 28-year-old decided it was time to approach dating differently. She’d casually see three men at the same time to stop herself from “hyperfixating” on a single guy and save herself from heartache when she got passed over or ghosted.

“I was so attached to the idea of [the guy I was dating] because I was only dating him versus dating multiple people,” Kerrigan, a producer and entrepreneur, explained to The Post.

“I feel like I used to fall in love” immediately, added the content creator behind the dating card game Let’s F–king Date.

Kerrigan — who defines “dating” as spending one-on-one time with someone — said that seeing multiple people as opposed to just one person has changed her attitude about herself.

“Operating in abundance,” she said, is “the best thing that I did for my confidence.”

She clarified that she doesn’t see all three men every week and instead “oscillates” between them to make plans. But while she might be seeing less of each guy, she said it allows her to focus on what she values, which is “quality time and great conversation.”

Taking her thoughts to TikTok, Kerrigan was overwhelmed by how many people agreed with her — and had tried the same thing. Many of the users commenting on her post from earlier this month, which has more than 448,000 views so far, noted the strategy helped them take better control of their dating life.

Rather than feel like they’d been “chosen” by a man to date them, the “rule of threes” instead allowed them to “choose” the kind of person they really wanted to be with.

Kiara, 25, who had commented on the video, told The Post that the strategy is now her “preferred method of dating.”

“I used to have a tendency of getting attached quickly — even when I knew we weren’t that compatible or there were red flags present,” said the Toronto-based production assistant for a jewelry designer, who declined to share her last name for privacy reasons.

Kiara is currently seeing three people and has been practicing the rule of threes for around five years. She said it has changed her outlook and helped protect her from heartbreak.

“I feel no pressure or stress when it comes to them,” she said. “If we stop seeing each other I wouldn’t get sad — just dust off my shoulders and move on.”

Los Angeles-based dating coach and therapist Jaime Bronstein praised the the notion of casually dating more than one person at a time.

“I think it’s very smart not to put all your eggs in one basket,” the 45-year-old told The Post.

“I I think it’s healthy — until or unless you have ‘the conversation,’ ” she added, referring to the relationship talk about being exclusive.

Dating multiple people removes some of the “nervous” energy that sometimes comes with focusing on just one person, Bronstein said, as well as eliminates the possibility that you may be building someone up in your head.

“The truth is, there is abundance in life, and we do have multiple options,” she advised. “It’s not healthy to focus just on one person.”

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Young people who detransition describe death threats, doxxing, intimidation, and being accused of 'genocide' from the 'cult-like' transgender community

Young people who used drugs or surgery to change their gender but later regretted their procedures and sought to reverse them are warning of worsening abuse from the transgender community they've walked away from.

De-transitioners, as they are known, speak of online vitriol, doxxing, harassment and death threats after they made the tough decisions to exit what they describe as inward-looking and even 'cult-like' trans groups.

Tensions between trans activists and de-transitioners spiked this month at a meeting of Florida's medical board, where sex change interventions for children were restricted. Insults were hurled, bomb threats were posted online.

Trans rights activists shouted over their opponents at the hearings, called out 'bigot' and 'shame on all of you', and vowed to dox board members, by publishing their private phone numbers and other details online.

The stakes are high. Trans activists face discrimination, many see themselves in a life-or-death civil rights struggle. By turning against that lifestyle and decrying puberty blockers for young people, de-transitioners undermine their cause.

Trans people eschew de-transitioners for 'invalidating their narrative,' Cat Cattinson, a de-transitioner from northern California, told DailyMail.com.

'I've seen the level of hate really escalate to the point that any time a new de-transitioner shares their story online, they get dogpiled by thousands of trans activists, bullied, ridiculed, and of course death threats,' said Cattinson.

'For every de-transitioner with a public platform, the new trend has been to call us liars and grifters and just try to invalidate everything we say.'

Cattinson, 30, a singer and musician, grew up as female but identified as male from the age of 13. She took testosterone, went by the name of Tony, and made plans for breast-removal surgery.

But the drugs started having negative effects on her heart, and deepened her cherished singing voice. She decided in 2020 to stop the injections and begin her de-transition back to being a woman.

She was among a group of de-transitioners that addressed hearings of Florida's medical board, which on November 4 voted to forbid the state's doctors from prescribing puberty blockers and hormones, or perform surgeries, until transgender patients are 18.

Republican politicians in Tennessee, Oklahoma, Texas and Oklahoma have taken steps to restrict such treatments for children, but the decision in Florida was the first time limits were imposed by a US medical board, albeit one aligned to Gov. Ron DeSantis.

A spokesman for the board said they had to draft extra law enforcers and hired a private security firm for the controversial hearings, as various social media users threatened to 'mail pipe bombs' to the 14-member panel.

Many doctors, mental health specialists and medical groups argue that treatments for transgender youth are safe and beneficial, and some say they are necessary to prevent teen suicides, though rigorous long-term research is lacking.

Definitive data are hard to come by. According to Pew Research Center, some 5.1 percent of adults younger than 30 are trans or nonbinary. Somewhere between 8 and 13 percent of them revert to their gender at birth, according to various estimates.

A Reddit group called 'detrans' has 41,500 members who share their experiences about dodgy doctors, stigma and other issues, including ever more 'hateful, angry' online posts in transgender forums.

Cattinson says the growing number of outspoken detransitioners has changed the conversation.

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This election was no loss for Trump

If conservatives interpreted Barry Goldwater’s defeat in 1964 the way Trump supporters are being told to interpret the 2022 midterms, there would be no conservative movement today. Of course, the 1964 election was an actual defeat, while this year’s elections were an advance for the new Republican right, which succeeded in its first task — gaining power in the GOP — and has strengthened its hand in Congress. The right has picked up a Senate seat with Ohio’s J.D. Vance, and Republicans look likely to control the House of Representatives come January. The GOP won the majority of votes cast in House races, nearly 52 percent overall.

The official narrative of the election is meant to drive the right to suicide. Democrats, NeverTrump ex-Republicans, and critics of the populist right who remain in the GOP have all blamed Trump voters for the party’s failure to take the Senate and claim a commanding margin in the House. Donald Trump himself was not on the ballot, but he made endorsements, and voters who followed those endorsements chose weak candidates, the story goes.

The anti-right narrative is a remarkable thing: when a candidate Trump supported lost, like Mehmet Oz in Pennsylvania, it was Trump’s fault; when a candidate Trump opposed lost, like Joe O’Dea in Colorado, it was Trump’s fault. When a candidate Trump supported won, such as J.D. Vance in Ohio, pundits discounted the victory; when a candidate Trump opposed won, such as Brian Kemp in Georgia, the same pundits found it enormously significant. Ron DeSantis’s nearly 20-point margin of victory in Florida, a big win for the right, was mostly hyped as a defeat for Trump, even though Florida is Trump’s home base.

In light of all the other commentary, it should be clear to voters of the right what liberals are trying to do: they prefer DeSantis to Trump, and by presenting the midterms as a defeat for the populist right, they hope to persuade DeSantis to shift away from the right if he runs for president in 2024.

But before DeSantis, or any other Republican, accepts that narrative, he should ask himself what the 2022 results really say about the momentum of different ideological blocs within the GOP and in the country as a whole. The first thing to notice is that incumbents won last Tuesday no matter what their ideological tilt — not a single sitting senator or governor lost. Moderate Republican incumbents like Ohio’s Mike DeWine won; liberal Democrat incumbents like Michigan governor Gretchen Whitmer and New York governor Kathy Hochul won; libertarian-leaning Trump-friendly Republican incumbents like senators Mike Lee and Rand Paul won; and DeSantis himself, the right-wing incumbent governor of Florida, won.

The flip side tells the same story: challengers of all stripes, right-wing, moderate, or liberal, almost always failed. If the 2022 election was meant to signal a rise in anti-Trump sentiment, the original NeverTrump candidate, Evan McMullin, shouldn’t have lost to Mike Lee in a double-digit blowout. Utah, after all, is the least friendly red state in the country for Trump’s brand of politics, and McMullin, who ran an independent campaign for president in 2016, ran against Lee this year on a platform entirely focused on tying the senator to the former president. He still lost by nearly 14 points.

Compare that dismal performance by a NeverTrump champion to the narrower loss by a Trump Republican like Blake Masters to an incumbent Democrat senator. As a former astronaut, Mark Kelly has the kind of résumé most politicians would kill for, and as senator he has had no particular scandals to his name. He is the kind of politician who could be expected to cruise to re-election any year, particularly in a cycle friendly to incumbents. But Masters, a 36-year-old first-time candidate, came about five points short of knocking out Kelly. Anyone who looked at this race without any knowledge of the “official” narrative would conclude that this political neophyte was a phenom, a first-time loser but a long-term winner, with the brightest of futures. A candidate like that would tell a neutral observer something important about the direction of American politics.

Two of this year’s battleground open-seat Senate races also sent a clear signal that differs from the pundit-class consensus. Where there was no incumbent in these battlegrounds, populism was the victor. And where voters were given a choice between right-wing and left-wing varieties of populism, they chose the right-wing kind. In Ohio, both parties fielded candidates with appeal to working-class voters, the Republican J.D. Vance, known for his memoir Hillbilly Elegy, and the Democrat Tim Ryan, a politician often named as an exemplar of how Democrats can appeal to blue-collar voters who increasingly trend Republican. Vance won by six points.

In Pennsylvania, a left-wing populist Democrat with experience as the state’s incumbent lieutenant governor, John Fetterman, beat a Trump-endorsed but not-populist Republican, the television celebrity doctor Mehmet Oz. Fetterman was certainly weakened by a recent stroke, yet he was exactly the right candidate to cut into Republican attempts to win working-class and less educated voters. And Oz, despite the Trump endorsement, was hardly the right candidate to outbid Fetterman for those votes. A Vance-like candidate in Pennsylvania would have done better than Oz, and although Pennsylvania is less Republican than Ohio, a candidate like Vance could probably have beaten Fetterman.

Going into the midterms, I was as wrong as everyone else about the mood of the electorate. Midterms usually see big gains by the party out of power in the White House, and amid inflation and rising crime, the Democrats seemed to be doomed. I wrote an op-ed for the New York Times arguing that Republicans were now the party with entrepreneurial initiative, and the risks they were taking would pay off. In any event, the payoff was much smaller than expected — for now. The country responded to all the uncertainty and misery of recent times not by gambling on change but by sticking with incumbents of both parties and all ideological complexions. The public chose to punt on making decisions this election, leaving Congress closely divided.

That’s not a loss for the right; it’s a postponement. And no rival faction of American politics scored a lasting victory on November 8. Adding John Fetterman to the Senate does nothing to rejuvenate the party of Joe Biden, and the loss of Tim Ryan — who did have promise as a potential national figure — is more significant for the Democrats’ future than Fetterman’s victory. The 44-year-old Ron DeSantis and the 38-year-old J.D. Vance, by contrast, do strengthen the future of the Republican right. Moderate Republicans did well with incumbents, just as everyone else did, but gained no new momentum from the re-election of governors like Mike DeWine. And Evan McMullin’s rout shows that NeverTrump politics has nothing to look forward to even in Mitt Romney’s Utah.

Populism and the right are still advancing in American politics. This proved to be great news for Ron DeSantis last Tuesday, but it is also good news for Donald Trump, who remains the father of right-wing populism. What he began in 2016 continues to grow. It took the GOP by storm in this year’s primaries and has made inroads into Congress even at a time when voters are taking no risks. The present knife’s-edge balance in legislative and presidential elections will give way to decisive results before long. Which side has the energy, drive, confidence, and courage to claim the future — no matter how long it takes?

The fact that the right may be in for a bruising battle between Trump and DeSantis is only proof that there is a prize here worth fighting for, and it’s more than just the 2024 Republican nomination. The lesson of this year’s midterms, however, is not to be impatient. The timetable for change in American politics may not be what anyone expects, but the force of change lies firmly on the right.

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Fat guy wins beauty contest

More Leftist destruction. They never have much liked the idea of beauty. It offends against their "all men are equal" dogma. One does however feel sorry for the attactive women who were elbowed out of this contest

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Social media influencer and business management student Brian Nguyen won the title of Miss Greater Derry.

Contestants between 17 and 24 compete against other women for the title, with the winner going on to vie for the title of Miss New Hampshire 2023.

In an Instagram post, Brian said she was “honoured” to win the title.

“No words can describe the feeling of having the opportunity to serve my community and represent my community for the very first time at Miss New Hampshire,” she said.

Critics were quick to accuse the competition of going ‘woke’ and taking opportunities away from female contestants after footage of Nguyen’s crowning moment went viral online.

Former Miss Great Britain winner and glamour model Leilani Dowdin said the other contestants’ had their opportunity “stolen from them by a biological male”.

“A biological male and an overweight one at that has just won Miss Greater Derry in New Hampshire. Brian who is not even a female name, caked in makeup, nothing like the pretty natural girls that entered the competition, has not only taken first place, they’ve taken away the chance for a female to have a scholarship and use that prize money for something towards her future,” Dowdin said in a video she shared on Twitter.

“I don’t know if they felt like they would be singled out, or whether they really are woke bunch.”

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