Why Women Need to Stop Complaining About Men

Jennifer Pitts below is obviously a happy lady. She actually likes men and is most comfortable among them. I married such a lady once many years ago and while we have gone our separate ways since, we are still in contact and supportive of one-another

I think she is broadly right in what she says below but I would dispute that men enjoy "hunting" women. Some may but I would think that they are shallow types who would not make good or stable partners.

But her advice to take it slowly I nonetheless agree with. I have very rarely slept with a woman on a first date and have always been happy to take whatever time the lady needs if I see her as worthwhile.

And her advice to focus on deeds, not words is solid gold

It’s time for us to start understanding the male species; they are not us

I have a lot of love for the male species, maybe because I had little brothers growing up or an uncle and Grampie that were support systems for me, but mostly I’m a tomboy at heart, and I’ve always enjoyed hanging out with boys.

My first best guy friend at age ten was Shawn; he had a rat’s tail and steps on the side of his sideburns, a very cool look in the nineties. We used to roll around our city together doing badass kid stuff like stealing candy and spitting on everything; the phase did not last long, thank God. He was my first male friend and what I liked about him is how comfortable I felt in his company and how I could be myself.

Another male friend before Shawn was Will. We hung out because my mom babysat him and his sisters. Like Shawn, we had an instant friendship climbing trees and eating crab apples until our mouths would pucker.

As I reached my teenage years, into my twenties up until now my forties, I’ve had a few handfuls of exceptional male friends, and I have a good understanding when it comes to the male species. Still, I wanted to do some research to learn more about how they are different from us women.

Men are emotional creatures just like us.

Men are emotional creatures like women, but they don’t always handle their emotions the same as us. According to psychology, today, men will express their feelings such as sadness and vulnerability through anger and pride.

When it comes to expressing their emotions, society has portrayed them as weak. In a recent survey by elite singles, they questioned 1500 men, and the results show that women prefer a man who is in touch and expresses his emotions. Unfortunately, 1 in 6 men still believes that women do not want them to be expressive because it will make them seem unattractive. They pull away because they are scared.

I always thought that when a man pulled away, he hinted that he wasn’t that into me. I assumed because that’s what I’ve learned throughout the years from movies, books, or having conversations. However, the problem is that I always felt they did like me because I wouldn’t continue to engage with someone who didn’t.

I started to better understand men after watching Jonathon Aslay YouTube videos and the author of What is Self-love Anyways.

I realized that a man who pulls away might not have a proper foundation built in his life, or he could be going through a tough time. He has enough respect not to pull you into his life until he feels it’s stable enough.

According to Jonathon, another reason is the fear of intimacy, which can be related to childhood wounds depending on their experience growing up. If they haven’t healed these wounds either from childhood or adulthood, they could be causing a block in having an intimate relationship.

So, the next time a man is pulling away, maybe have a different perceptive that it’s him, not you. They really do love us, even if they have a funny way of showing it.

Women love men differently from how they love us, and I’m not sure we have come to understand this yet. When we love, we are more verbal with our emotions, but they show love through actions. This is because their brains are designed differently from ours when it comes to their experiences. When they start to feel love for us, their brain shuts down. That’s why it's hard for them to talk about how much they care about us.

We need to understand this, so we don’t feel insecure and start doubting their love for us. *Pay attention to his actions more than his words*, and his actions will show you how much he loves you.

Does he support you when you need him? Is he making sure you get home safe after a date? Does he show that he’s interested in your life? Will he stand up for you if someone is talking negatively about you? Will he fix things around the house for you? These are all actions of a man that loves you.

They are natural-born hunters. Let them hunt you.

I remember my ex-husband telling me that if I had slept with him on the first date, he wouldn’t have called me, and it’s true because it didn’t last very long with the men that I have slept with quickly. That’s because they enjoy the hunt at the beginning of a new connection.

Of course, there needs to be a balance, and although men enjoy the chase, they also want reciprocation. I’m not talking about game playing when it comes to men chasing women.

After reading Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, he mentions that men put women into two different categories. We are either in the sports fishing or in the dream girl category. Depending on how long we allow them to hunt us, men’s first goal is to get us into bed. A man interested in pursuing a specific woman like his dream girl will take his time with her if she allows him to chase her. By us allowing this, we can set down boundaries and build a proper foundation with the man. If he becomes lazy and stops pursuing you after the first two dates or so, he only wanted sex, so you didn’t waste your time.

It all depends on what you want out of a connection. For me, I always have a sense when a man is going to be special to me, so I never sleep with him right away. I allow it to unfold naturally, and my two greatest loves so far paid off for years because I allowed them to hunt me.

If you're looking to have a good time, feel free to sleep with them but don’t expect any commitments from men, but of course, there is always the exception of the rule.

The takeaways

Keep in mind the next time you do not understand a man.

#1 — They are emotional, just like us.
#2 — They pull away because they are scared.
#3 — They really do love us.
#4 — They want to hunt us, so let them.

We must become more understanding of how men behave compared to us. The more we can understand them, the more we can connect with them, and the more they will feel safe to open up.

https://medium.com/inspired-writer/us-women-need-to-stop-complaining-about-men-7adaf01cd83a

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Finnish Court Clears Christian Politician, Bishop of ‘Hate Speech’ Charges

A court in Finland rules unanimously that it isn’t its job “to interpret biblical concepts." Pictured: Päivi Räsänen, a member of the Finnish Parliament, holds a Bible as she arrives Jan. 24 with her husband, Niilo, for a court session in Helsinki, Finland. (Photo: Antti Aimo-Koivisto/Lehtikuva/Getty Images)

A Finnish court has dismissed all charges against a Christian member of Parliament and a bishop charged under Finland’s “hate speech” and “ethnic agitation” law for supporting traditional marriage. The court ordered the government to reimburse the two.

In a unanimous ruling Wednesday, the Helsinki District Court determined that it isn’t its job “to interpret biblical concepts” in dropping the case against Päivi Räsänen, a member of the Finnish Parliament and former minister of interior, and Bishop Juhana Pohjola.

“I am so grateful the court recognized the threat to free speech and ruled in our favour,” Räsänen, also a medical doctor, said in a press release.

“I feel a weight has been lifted off my shoulders after being acquitted. Although I am grateful for having had this chance to stand up for freedom of speech, I hope that this ruling will help prevent others from having to go through the same ordeal,” she said.

ADF International, which helped defend Räsänen and issued the press release on the court ruling in Finland, is the global arm of Alliance Defending Freedom, an Arizona-based legal organization specializing in religious liberty.

Early in the case, the prosecutor’s office said Räsänen’s statements “violate the equality and dignity of homosexuals, so they transcend the boundaries of freedom of speech and religion.”

The prosecutor quoted a Bible verse included in Räsänen’s tweet. In the closing argument of the trial, the prosecution alleged that the word “sin” could be “harmful” and called for heavy fines in the event of a guilty verdict.

Prosecutors charged Pohjola, bishop of the Evangelical Lutheran Mission Diocese of Finland, with one count of violating the law in connection with hosting a pamphlet published by Räsänen on his church’s website 17 years ago.

But the court didn’t agree and issued a stinging defeat to the government, ordering the prosecution to pay 60,000 euros (about $66,940) in legal costs, according to Alliance Defending Freedom. The government has seven days to appeal.

Räsänen, 62, who is a member of the center-right Christian Democrat Party, has been a member of the Finnish Parliament since 1995. From 2011 to 2015, she was the government’s interior minister.

In 2004, Räsänen published a pamphlet, titled “Male and Female He Created Them,” about the Bible’s teaching on marriage. In 2019, she spoke on a radio program about her controversial tweet including a photo of Romans 1: 24–27, which says that “women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones” and “Men committed shameful acts with other men.”

For that, prosecutors charged Räsänen with three counts of violating Finland’s ethnic agitation law.

Finland’s ethnic agitation law was adopted in the 1970s to protect ethnic minorities and was amended several times to extend it on the basis of disabilities and sexual orientation.

The law says:

A person who makes available to the public or otherwise spreads among the public … an expression of opinion or another message where a certain group is threatened, defamed or insulted on the basis of its race, skin colour, birth status, national or ethnic origin, religion or belief, sexual orientation or disability or a comparable basis, shall be sentenced for ethnic agitation to a fine or to imprisonment for at most two years.

Global Attention

The case garnered international attention over its focus on free speech.

Rep. Chip Roy, R-Texas, praised the Finnish court’s decision Wednesday while noting the injustice of the prosecution.

“Today, I join with thousands of Americans and people around the world united in our joy and thankfulness that Finnish M.P. Päivi Räsänen and Bishop Juhana Pohjola were justly and unanimously found ‘not guilty,’” Roy said in a public statement.

During the trial, crowds gathered outside the Helsinki courthouse, according to the ADF International press release.

In Hungary, more than 3,000 gathered outside the Finnish Embassy in Budapest to protest the charges. Räsänen got letters of support from groups such as the International Lutheran Council and the European Evangelical Alliance.

“This decision is a victory for the God-given rights of free speech and religious expression both in Finland and across the globe,” Roy said in his written statement. “But, the fact that there was even a prosecution is unacceptable and a reminder that we must remain vigilant in defense of our faith, our values, and the very unalienable rights that form the foundation of Western civilization.”

In January, five Republican senators wrote to Rashad Hussain, the U.S. ambassador-at-large for international religious freedom, expressing concern that Finland’s hate speech law “could open the door for prosecution of other devout Christians, Muslims, Jews and adherents of other faiths for publicly stating their religious beliefs.”

Andrew Brunson, an American pastor imprisoned in Turkey for about two years, traveled to Finland on behalf of the Family Research Council, a Washington-based educational institute focused on traditional values, for closing arguments that wrapped up Tuesday. Brunson brought 14,000 pledged prayer requests for the two defendants.

https://www.dailysignal.com/2022/03/30/finnish-court-clears-christian-politician-bishop-of-hate-speech-charges/

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FEC fines DNC and Clinton for Trump dossier hoax

The Federal Election Commission has fined the Democratic National Committee and Hillary Clinton’s 2016 campaign for lying about the funding of the infamous, and discredited, Russian “dossier” used in a smear attempt against Donald Trump weeks before he shocked the world with his 2016 presidential victory.

The election agency said that Clinton and the DNC violated strict rules on describing expenditures of payments funneled to the opposition research firm Fusion GPS through their law firm.

A combined $1,024,407.97 was paid by the treasurers of the DNC and Clinton campaign to law firm Perkins Coie for Fusion GPS’s information, and the party and campaign hid the reason, claiming it was for legal services, not opposition research.

Instead, the DNC’s $849,407.97 and the Clinton campaign’s $175,000 covered Fusion GPS’s opposition research on the dossier, a basis for the so-called “Russia hoax” that dogged Trump’s first term.

The memo said that the Clinton campaign and DNC argued that they were correct in describing their payment as for “legal advice and services” because it was Perkins Coie that hired Fusion GPS. But the agency said the law is clear and was violated.

It added that neither the campaign nor the party conceded to lying but won’t contest the finding. “Solely for the purpose of settling this matter expeditiously and to avoid further legal costs, respondent[s] does not concede, but will not further contest the commission's finding of probable cause to proceed” with the probe, said the FEC.

The FEC, in a memo to the Coolidge Reagan Foundation, which filed its complaint over three years ago, said it fined Clinton’s treasurer $8,000 and the DNC’s treasurer $105,000.

The memo, shared with Secrets, is to be made public in a month.

Dan Backer, who brought the complaint on behalf of the foundation, which focuses on free speech and the First Amendment, told Secrets, “This may well be the first time that Hillary Clinton — one of the most evidently corrupt politicians in American history — has actually been held legally accountable, and I'm proud to have forced the FEC to do their job for once. The Coolidge Reagan Foundation proved that with pluck and grit, Americans who stand with integrity can stand up to the Clinton machine and other corrupt political elites.”

Clinton has in the past defended her campaign’s spending for the information and the work of her campaign lawyer, Marc Elias, with Fusion GPS, which compiled the dossier and hired former British spy Christopher Steele to dig further on Trump.

Trump has assailed the dossier as full of lies, and the FBI has called it fake, but only after the damage settled in on the president.

Republicans have continued to press for charges against Clinton.

Backer, with Washington’s Chalmers & Adams law firm, held out hope for further action against the former first lady. He said, “Hillary Clinton and her cronies willfully engaged in the greatest political fraud in history — destroying our nation's faith in the electoral process, and it’s high time they were held accountable. I hope this is only the beginning.”

https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/fec-fines-dnc-clinton-for-trump-dossier-hoax

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2.5 million illegal immigrants have been apprehended since Biden took office. Almost all of them were released

Since President Joe Biden was sworn into office in Jan. 2021, more than 2.5 million illegal immigrants have been apprehended at the southern border, the greatest unchallenged influx of illegal immigrants in American history, according to data compiled by U.S. Customs & Border Patrol (CBP).

Of those, just 167,392 were either deemed inadmissible or expelled due to health concerns, according to the CBP.

Currently, just 20,146 illegal immigrants are currently detained in FY 2022 according to Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE). 136,725 have been released in FY 2022: 7,879 were bonded out, 85,747 were given orders of recognizance and 38,745 were paroled out. Besides that, ICE reports that Alternatives to Detention (ATD) currently number at 191,988.

That’s catch and release.

In addition, reports that in FY 2021, there were just 59,011 removals in its latest annual report, a 68 percent decrease from FY 2020, when 185,884 illegal immigrants were deported. And that was during the height of the Covid pandemic, and with far fewer apprehensions to work with.

So, working through the numbers: 2.5 million illegal immigrants were caught at the border, but only 167,392 were turned away and another 59,011 were deported.

Meaning, 2.27 million illegal immigrants just from Biden’s time in office remain in the country. They were all released.

Unfortunately, many of them are indentured slaves and victims of human trafficking who paid the Mexican drug cartels to get into the U.S. Once here, they are obliged to keep paying protection money. Many of them are sex slaves. How many?

In the year 2000, the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA) estimated as many as 50,000 women and children are smuggled to the U.S. every year to serve as prostitutes and forced laborers in violation of the 13th Amendment’s prohibition of slavery and indentured servitude.

After more than 20 years, that would mean there are more than 1 million slaves in the U.S. and likely, given the numbers we are seeing presently at the border, there are many, many more than that.

And the Biden administration—and prior administrations although not the Trump administration, which prioritized securing the border—is letting it happen. In fact, by opening the border, Biden is accommodating this abhorrent crime against humanity.

According to a report by the Organization of American States on human trafficking, the conditions of these slaves are atrocious: “The victims, mostly women and children, are often deceived about the true nature of the work. They are exploited in slavery-like conditions. The traffickers grow rich, but the victims are held in debt bondage… Some are abducted and sold, some are deceived into consenting by the promise of a better life or a better job, and some feel that entrusting themselves to traffickers is the only economically viable option. Regardless of the route of entry, most women and children trafficked for sexual exploitation suffer extreme violations of their human rights, including the right to liberty, the right to dignity and security of person, the right not to be held in slavery or involuntary servitude, the right to be free from cruel and inhumane treatment, the right to be free from violence, and the right to health.”

The report continued: “Why can’t they just leave? Some trafficking victims are physically imprisoned by locks, bars or guards. Those with apparent freedom to leave are controlled by other means. Physical, sexual and psychological violence are employed against them effectively.”

Former President Trump dealt with this problem by threatening Mexico with massive tariffs if they would not deploy their military to secure their side of the border. The Migrant Protocols and the Remain in Mexico policy were adopted by both countries, and apprehensions dropped substantially.

Then, Biden arbitrarily ended the Remain in Mexico policy, an action which the Supreme Court then struck down. Not that it matters. While the U.S. and Mexico have nominally agreed to reinstate the program in December, without the threat of tariffs, the amount of apprehensions is higher than ever.

Who’s remaining in Mexico if 838,685 illegal immigrants have been apprehended this year?

The better question is, of the millions of illegal immigrants coming here, how many of them are now enslaved here in the U.S. by the cartels? Maybe somebody should ask President Biden at this next press conference.

Robert Romano is the Vice President of Public Policy at Americans for Limited Government Foundation.

https://dailytorch.com/2022/03/2-5-million-illegal-immigrants-have-been-apprehended-since-biden-took-office-almost-all-of-them-were-released/

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